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Feel isolated and alone with your new baby?

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Do you have a partner, but they may not offer the support you need, or be home enough for what you need?

Do you have plenty of family around, but don't feel like you can call on them when you are feeling down or struggling?

Have you moved to a town where you really don't know many people, and none close enough to call on?

Do you have friends but they all have their own 'stuff' going on and you don't want to add to that?

Do you feel like you should be coping and able to do this parenting role and don't want to tell anyone else of your feelings?

Have you asked for help but don't want to keep asking?

Blog Support MumsYou are most definitely not alone. The feelings you have, they are common for more parents than you realise, you just haven't heard about it.

You have heard how great becoming a parent is and how you are going to bond straight away and they are going to feed instantly and how you will just know what the baby needs and how to meet those needs.

Then reality sets in. You become a parent and some or all of the above may happen, but there is a good chance some won't. Your hormones are all over the place, your baby may not bring wind up well, their sleep may not settle into a routine quickly, and you are a sleep deprived, emotional blubbering mess.

If you don't find some support, this can spiral into a baby that does not settle, bad decisions made, and post natal depression. It is hard when you are exhausted and overwhelmed to know where to go.

The trick is to tell people you need some help. It makes you a better mum to ask than to travel this road alone. Most other mums understand, chances are they have been there before. The thing is, they think you are doing okay because that is what you are putting out there, so they aren't volunteering to help you. Ask for the help, just a few hours so you can get some sleep or have some adult company. Ask family and friends, if they can't help maybe they know someone else who can.

There are also professional organisations that can offer some support. Your child health nurse, your doctor can refer you to others, there are support groups for new parents and not so new parents. There are phone supports like the parenting line and beyond blue. There are organisations that offer help with sleep (for you and baby), feeding and bonding.

Never think by reaching out that you are a failure. It takes a stronger person to reach out than one that tries to do it all on their own. Once you do this you will realise you aren't actually alone, a lot of people really do want to help.

If you are in the Perth WA area, and you don’t feel like you can call on family or friends, please call Cherished Cherubs Babysitting, it’s the support you can trust, and we are also able to refer you to baby sleep specialists should you wish to take that path. 

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