Thursday, 21 September 2017 11:36

What if I told you I could predict the date of your divorce?

It’s an algorithm really.  

  1. how old are you and your partner?
  2. how old are your children?
  3. now many date nights do you have?
  4. how much time is spent altogether in the family home?
  5. how aligned are your parenting beliefs and strategies?
  6. how much control do you take on?
  7. how often do you go out with friends, without your partner or children?

These will all have a dramatic effect on your relationship and how long you are likely to stay married. 

Thursday, 07 September 2017 11:57

Ever noticed how a house with kids is never like the magazines? 

Are adverts for household furniture and haberdashery ever aimed at parents?

This is how they should sell household items to parents or future parents....

Thursday, 17 August 2017 11:21

It only dawned on me recently that I have never lived alone… ever, and I wonder how that has impacted my outlook on life.

Here is some Suze history. A middle child, I was bought up with my family until the age of 12 years. Due to isolation I would spend the next 5 years of my life at boarding school with over 100 other teenagers. Students don’t have money, so shared accommodation followed me after high school with my studies.  

From there I became a parent, and have had a growing number of children living with me ever since. In amongst that I have had other family and friends stay with me for extended periods (up to 3 years) so my home has been filled, continually. Some of my older children have left, but even today I still have 6 children living in my home and regular guests. 

Thursday, 03 August 2017 10:59

How do others describe you? Are you pigeon-holed as one thing but you are so much more than what people see you as?

Ness is a strong business woman, John an inspirational leader, Jane is Pete’s wife, Fiona’s an adventurer, Michelle is Jack’s mother……..What defines you as a person?

Thursday, 20 July 2017 10:35

How long does it take to have a business fully set up?

How long does it take to meet all legal requirements, to have the people trained, to have the systems in place, to have everything seamlessly working for the desired outcome, ticking over without any major issues?

It’s been 15 years building my business from the ground up. We have a dedicated team, have implemented a lot of systems, fine tuned many processes, and we have built a fantastic database of happy clients. You would think everything would be down pat by now, wouldn’t you?

Thursday, 06 July 2017 13:10

Does work take priority over your family?

Be honest, if you are flat out with your work, does this take your time and thoughts over spending it with your family?

If you have your own business I can virtually guarantee the answer will be yes.

So here's the reminder, don't forget your family.

It sounds simple, but when in our busy lives, we sometimes prioritise work over family, and I admit I have been guilty of this, and still do at times.

Monday, 26 June 2017 12:20

Throw the guilts away, stop justifying your need to be with your child all the time. Time away from your child is good not just for you, but also for them.  

Here are 5 reasons you should be calling the babysitter and walk out the door……

Thursday, 22 June 2017 12:10

2 weeks agao, I've written a blog on my recent trip to Everest Base Camp in Nepal. If you haven't read it, please click here

This blog post is a continuation to the questions and answers everyone is asking about our adventure:

Monday, 19 June 2017 14:40

Date nights, they happen all the time when we are starting our relationship. As time goes and we begin our families, they tend to disappear. We have every intention that they will start up again, but do they? Are you having regular date nights?

What does it take to get the spice back in your relationship, how will you manage to go out and not feel guilty, or worry about the safety of your children?  Let’s do up a plan…

Thursday, 08 June 2017 12:50

If your next holiday included a week of no showers, no power, no meat, no alcohol, no warmth, and no idea what you are in for, would you volunteer?

Namaste!! And welcome to my blog on our recent trip to Everest Base Camp in Nepal.

I was trying to keep this shortish, but everyone is asking about our adventure, so here are all the answers to your questions covered in 2 blog posts.

Thursday, 25 May 2017 13:40

Dear daughter/son, this is what I wish for you....

I pondered what advice I would give my children to help them live a fulfilling life. I came up with 4 thoughts that resonate with what I hope for them into the future.

Wednesday, 10 May 2017 12:07

Forget about chunking work down, I need to chunk down my life!

Work, kids, life, what do you do with overwhelm? 

Friends and colleagues see me as the one that has everything under control all the time. So they are surprised when I say I feel like I am drowning and feeling overwhelmed. 

My life is busy at the best of times, but these last few weeks have been crazy busy. There is a saying in business that when there is a problem to chunk things up or down. I am having to chunk my whole life down!

Wednesday, 26 April 2017 12:44

Do you have a partner, but they may not offer the support you need, or be home enough for what you need?

Do you have plenty of family around, but don't feel like you can call on them when you are feeling down or struggling?

Have you moved to a town where you really don't know many people, and none close enough to call on?

Do you have friends but they all have their own 'stuff' going on and you don't want to add to that?

Do you feel like you should be coping and able to do this parenting role and don't want to tell anyone else of your feelings?

Have you asked for help but don't want to keep asking?

Thursday, 06 April 2017 12:14

Were you always academic at school? Do you have a child that has trouble grasping concepts or has no interest in learning?

My eldest 3 children have all done well at school with some but realistically minimal input from myself. Now my youngest 3 are going through late primary school and early high, and it's a whole new kettle of fish for me. One learns creatively, another prefers to be social than learn, and the third is very capable but doesn't apply herself enough. Help!!

Thursday, 23 March 2017 11:06

You have had your first child, you have all survived and learnt a lot along the way. Adding a second child shouldn't take as much adaption, or should it?

Sorry to those that had a hard time with their first child, but I breezed through the first year of my eldest child's life. Although 6 weeks prem, her development was spot on, she had good routines and a very placid nature. In fact I got bored and went back to study.

Thursday, 16 March 2017 11:36

Can you remember the last holiday you had without your children? 

Was it pre-parenthood?

Do you think your relationship with your partner or friends may be stronger if you occasionally travelled together without kids?

Do you think your sense of self would be stronger and your self confidence would grow?

Would you be revitalised and stronger to go back into everyday life?

Would you be adding amazing experiences to your life?

Thursday, 22 September 2016 10:39

I have been called the baby whisperer a fair few times.  

Recently I babysat a 7 month old baby - whilst the grandparents were home. They had not been able to settle the baby during the week so when mum wanted a night out, they said they would prefer they didn’t babysit.  The baby did wake, and I did have to settle her a few times. The first time I walked out I saw amazed faces and the comments of ‘how did you do that, what’s your secret?’.

I don’t think I have any special skill that comes with settling a baby. I do have some practices that I think contribute to being able to settle them.

Thursday, 15 September 2016 09:18

What to fear when leaving your child?

Leaving your child with a ‘stranger’ is scary, and it should be.

The first day at daycare, a babysitter, a crèche, the first day at school, all times when you are essentially leaving your child with a stranger.

Children are natural adventurers, it is often the parent that drives the fear. Where does this fear come from? It is about what has been instilled in us in our upbringing. It is also about those around us that are happy to impose their views. Media loves to focus on negative stories. 

Thursday, 08 September 2016 09:37

I give up my babies, voluntarily.

I have been fostering babies for 15 years. I have 3 longer term kids living with me permanently. I still foster, but choose to now do emergency and short term placements of newborn and young babies. They stay for a period of one day up to a few months.

I have been asked so many times, how do you do it? How do you not get attached? How do you not worry about them afterwards?

Here is how I hand over the children I have totally loved and cared for.

Thursday, 01 September 2016 13:33

‘Why did you start fostering’ is a question I am often asked.

When I was running family day care many years ago there were a couple of girls I would look after every week. They were 2 & 4 years. One week they didn’t come. The following week they arrived, not with their mum, but with the local police officer’s wife.

Those two children, at just 2 & 4 years of age, had walked across the street from their house and told the neighbour, they couldn’t wake their mummy. Their mummy had overdosed. Thankfully their mummy didn’t die, but she did lose her children that day.